I'll start out with the extreme insanity of my question first to get it out of the way. I have dreams of becoming a Navy seal and an astronaut. Those have been my dream jobs for as long as I can remember.
Unfortunately, those two careers are extremely competitive and telling people that doesn't exactly get a lot of support from those around you because of how impossible it seems. So instead of pursuing that, I went to university and majored in biology to pursue dentistry, which is a nice, secure job that will provide a good family life. Right now, I am a 21 year old senior and have already applied to dental schools so I'm just waiting to hear back. I am also engaged to an absolutely wonderful girl who I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with (we plan to get married next summer). Everything in my life seems to be going well and I'm following the "ideal" life of getting into a high-paying career and getting married to someone I love more than life.
However, for a while now, all I can seem to think about is if I'm going to regret not pursuing more of my dreams. Of course, having kids and a family is a big dream of mine, and my path now sets me up well for that. But, I find myself looking 30 years from now and being in the same dental office doing the same thing I've been doing for the last 25 years and I begin to get very anxious thinking about this. I almost begin to feel claustrophobic. When I talk to my father about it, he encourages me to keep on the path because from experience he knows that the highest priority once you get older is God and your family. I am trying to think long term and not let my young energy take me down a path that will make my future harder for a family, but I can't help think about it.
My fiance tells me I have her support if I decide to join the Navy, but I know that she would hate life while I was in the military, especially when deployed. I hate the idea of putting her through that.
However, if I was able to become a SEAL officer (which is even more competitive), then I might be in less dangerous situations as well as have more on my resume if I apply to become an astronaut afterwards.
I know I am rambling now, so the point being, how do I balance my desires to do cool (and dangerous) things that I can be proud of while also being a good husband and future father? Thank you in advance for the help.
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I want to list out the different options I am thinking about doing. (FYI they will build from most normal to more and more crazy). I put my age in brackets for the start of each stage.
1) go to dental school [22] and become a dentist [26], providing good income and time for being with family.
2) join the navy (enlisted or officer) to become a seal [23], serve for 6 years then become dentist after [29] (6 years until back to family life dentist)
3) join navy to become seal officer[23], then be a pilot in navy [29] for 10 years before trying to become an astronaut [39] then we an astronaut for 6 years, do a post-bacc program [45] before applying to dental school [47] and be a dentist [51] until retirement (27 years until back to family life dentist)
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